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I was still revelling in those early years of adolescence with hyperactive emotions when I realized the girl who was occupying my heart, with whom I had already began to see myself walking the rest life’s journey, was not at all interested in me. That was when for the first time I smacked the flavor of heartbreak. Now you might wonder what’s so unusual about this? Well, at this age it might seem to be a trivial issue, but at that very moment for a 14-year-old boy this was indeed serious. After all it was my first love which unfortunately turned out to be my first failed love. With emotions running high it took some time for me to get over her.
Years later now when I recall those experiences I end up laughing at myself. But, those subtle experiences made sure life is not insipid. Today while chatting with my close buddies over a cup of coffee discussing those episodes, sharing our own understating about love we get to laugh aloud at ourselves and mock each other. And I can vouch that- there’s no greater joy then laughing at our own immaturity and acts of stupidity.
After completing school when I began my tryst with life I did not have any serious face off with love. Those very few brief rendezvous, what I later concluded were mere infatuations or crushes (as per modern connotation). After sweet and sour experiences one question that kept buzzing on my mind- what is all about being in a relationship, its success or failure, and why people even after over-pouring with love are always turned down?
The greatest lessons on love was imparted by my parents. Bearing a slightly reserve personality they were the only people in front of whom I could keep blabbering. Though during the initial years of adolescence I was shy to open up on topics like love and relationships, but only during the later years I became more vocal about these. This made my life a cakewalk! I could see things with more clarity.
During most of the times our attraction or liking for someone is so intense that we began planning the next three generations with that person. About realising if this is the relationship I am looking for- what dad told me was- when such a moment comes we need not seek somebody else’s suggestion on it. It will be I who would be asking the questions and it would be I would answer them. Sounds complicated? But, when it’s the right time things will get simplified.
On the philosophy behind a fulfilling relationship according to him, is when we are aware of the balance of equal amounts of support and challenge. We require this equilibrium of positive and negative in order to grow and evolve. It’s therefore crucial to understand that we all own and display all personality traits such as generous and mean, kind and cruel, considerate and inconsiderate etc., in equal quantities. Too often we expect our partner to be a one-sided being – only kind and considerate, but this will only lead to frustration, disappointment and withdrawal when our partner inevitably expresses the other side. But as soon as we breakthrough the limitation of our perception, we will move into the dance, which will assist our relationship to grow in maturity and mutual appreciation.
Years later now when I recall those experiences I end up laughing at myself. But, those subtle experiences made sure life is not insipid. Today while chatting with my close buddies over a cup of coffee discussing those episodes, sharing our own understating about love we get to laugh aloud at ourselves and mock each other. And I can vouch that- there’s no greater joy then laughing at our own immaturity and acts of stupidity.
After completing school when I began my tryst with life I did not have any serious face off with love. Those very few brief rendezvous, what I later concluded were mere infatuations or crushes (as per modern connotation). After sweet and sour experiences one question that kept buzzing on my mind- what is all about being in a relationship, its success or failure, and why people even after over-pouring with love are always turned down?
The greatest lessons on love was imparted by my parents. Bearing a slightly reserve personality they were the only people in front of whom I could keep blabbering. Though during the initial years of adolescence I was shy to open up on topics like love and relationships, but only during the later years I became more vocal about these. This made my life a cakewalk! I could see things with more clarity.
During most of the times our attraction or liking for someone is so intense that we began planning the next three generations with that person. About realising if this is the relationship I am looking for- what dad told me was- when such a moment comes we need not seek somebody else’s suggestion on it. It will be I who would be asking the questions and it would be I would answer them. Sounds complicated? But, when it’s the right time things will get simplified.
On the philosophy behind a fulfilling relationship according to him, is when we are aware of the balance of equal amounts of support and challenge. We require this equilibrium of positive and negative in order to grow and evolve. It’s therefore crucial to understand that we all own and display all personality traits such as generous and mean, kind and cruel, considerate and inconsiderate etc., in equal quantities. Too often we expect our partner to be a one-sided being – only kind and considerate, but this will only lead to frustration, disappointment and withdrawal when our partner inevitably expresses the other side. But as soon as we breakthrough the limitation of our perception, we will move into the dance, which will assist our relationship to grow in maturity and mutual appreciation.
Mom-dad: Their fondness for one another remains intact ever since the day my memory can roll back to
Recently mom sent me a photograph snapped moments before mom-dad were up for valentine’s day celebration. Last December they celebrated their 25th marriage anniversary. After two and a half decades of togetherness all I see is their love for each other only escalating every passing day. The flame of sanctity in their relationship is augmenting everyday. Their fondness for one another remains intact ever since the day my memory can roll back to. Thus to me, theirs is the ideal kind of relationship I always strive for. But mom believes there’s nothing extraordinary about it. But for a relationship to prosper we have to understand our partner well enough to know their values and caring enough to express our values in terms of theirs. It is a careless relationship in which we project and focus on our own values without considering our partner at all.
The friction, supplementary expectations and materialism that comes in relationships of my generation compels me to question the existence of true love. But, when I look back at them my believe in love replenishes. But, I also espy snippets of confusion in me. I wonder if my generation can have lovers who are so deeply, madly and intensely in love with each other. I might be skeptical but perhaps, that's one reason why I couldn't find a match till date. What I will expect for is a relationship of such reverence. A relationship with similar sanctity as theirs. Being loved and to love, love that might break us, but still keep us together. Love that may create distances but will still bring a closeness. Love that is true and would be forever! Which is bit difficult to find in people of my generation.
They say first love is never forgotten and it leaves a mark on us. Perhaps it changed me too. It was during those days when I began writing poetry. Though the love perished somewhere, but sometimes there’s her mild fragrance in my poetry. Over the years my poetry has changed attires but the poet is still same as before. Well, after reading my entire piece you might wonder what happened to the girl I mentioned at the beginning.
After finishing school, I never met her again. But, thanks to this webbed era- few years later I connected to her through social media. We never exchanged any messages. Occasionally I only clicked the like button silently to appreciate her photos, similar to those school days when I sneak peeped to espy her snippet in between classes. And recently I learned through one of my friends that she is getting married next month.
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The friction, supplementary expectations and materialism that comes in relationships of my generation compels me to question the existence of true love. But, when I look back at them my believe in love replenishes. But, I also espy snippets of confusion in me. I wonder if my generation can have lovers who are so deeply, madly and intensely in love with each other. I might be skeptical but perhaps, that's one reason why I couldn't find a match till date. What I will expect for is a relationship of such reverence. A relationship with similar sanctity as theirs. Being loved and to love, love that might break us, but still keep us together. Love that may create distances but will still bring a closeness. Love that is true and would be forever! Which is bit difficult to find in people of my generation.
They say first love is never forgotten and it leaves a mark on us. Perhaps it changed me too. It was during those days when I began writing poetry. Though the love perished somewhere, but sometimes there’s her mild fragrance in my poetry. Over the years my poetry has changed attires but the poet is still same as before. Well, after reading my entire piece you might wonder what happened to the girl I mentioned at the beginning.
After finishing school, I never met her again. But, thanks to this webbed era- few years later I connected to her through social media. We never exchanged any messages. Occasionally I only clicked the like button silently to appreciate her photos, similar to those school days when I sneak peeped to espy her snippet in between classes. And recently I learned through one of my friends that she is getting married next month.
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